These lifestyles are a direct reflection of the life you live
You do not have to be in these lifestyles
You first have to have a life
And a direction built on a stable image as to what you want out of your life

But there are too many choices
There are too many advertisements
There are too many distraction
And there is too much time to dream

What do you want out of your life?
What do you want to offer others in your life?
What do you want out of others in your life?
What is your purpose in these lifestyles of your life?

Monogamy?



I spent a great deal of time reading Teal's page
She has a way of provoking good topics through sexuality
And she has some sexy ass nipples too
*wicked grin*

But I think that many of you need to learn more about what you are doing or not doing right in your life
And how it effects your lifestyle as well

And then maybe you can better seek what you lust for out of these lifestyles
Because all they offer you is style
But if you have no real respect for life it's self?
You can not have what you do not respect

Monogamy
Monogamy is the custom or condition of having only one mate in a relationship, thus forming a couple. The word monogamy comes from the Greek word monos, which means one or alone, and the Greek word gamos, which means marriage or union.

Serial monogamy is having no more than one sexual partner at a time but allows for multiple partners in a lifetime. In western culture serial monogamy is common with individuals before they start a family, due to divorce rates.

Monogamy is one of several mating systems observed in animals. The amount of social monogamy in animals varies across taxa, with over 90 percent of birds engaging in social monogamy but only 7 percent of mammals engaging in social monogamy.

The incidence of sexual monogamy appears quite rare in the animal kingdom. It is becoming clear that even animals that are socially monogamous engage in extra-pair copulations.



With this description?
Having ONE means you ONLY have ONE
Ever!

But that is not how many of you are today
The real issue is how many of you
Do not know the real definition of what you call your own acts

Most of you are not Monogamous
You are serial monogamous
And the only reason why so many of you do not call what you are
And what you do
Serial monogamy
Is because you do not know what it is
Or what's the difference

Serial monogamy is characterized by a series of long- or short-term, exclusive sexual relationships entered into consecutively over the lifespan. In common usage partners need not be married, but there is never more than one partner at a time. This behavior is a variant of monogamy, in which a given individual has only one sexual partner throughout life. This behavior is sometimes referred to as a form of, or replacement for, polygamy. However, this practice inherently excludes the practice of having multiple simultaneous sexual partners.
Meaning?
Generally, any animals that do not mate with one partner for life can be considered serially monogamous, including those who find a second mate only upon the death of the first.

There are arguments that evolutionary biology has selected a four-year mating cycle for humans based on natural birth spacing, as well as the belief that finding a 'fully' monogamous species is rare.

Within Western culture, serial monogamy is considered more fundamental than "full" monogamy. Relatively few people consciously enter a long-term relationship wanting it to eventually end so as to begin another.
But they do!
Especially in this country

Divorce

Serial monogamy has always been closely linked to divorce practices. Whenever procedures for obtaining divorce have been simple and easy, serial monogamy has been found.

As divorce has continued to become more accessible, more individuals have availed themselves of it, and many go on to remarry

But in this life we all live
Many of us don't have a legal divorce from our mates
And many of you are not open about what you do in your vanilla lives
With your mates
It's not personal, it's cultural.

The sexual revolution refers to the well documented changes in sexual behavior throughout the Western world that continue to evolve.

In general use, the sexual revolution is attributed to the changing trends in social thought, witnessed from the 1960s into the early 1970s. Although the term has been used at least since the late 1920s.

During the 1960s and 1970s fundamental changes were made on how society viewed its sexuality, heralding a period of de-conditioning away from old world antecedents, and developing new codes of sexual behavior many of which are now integrated into the mainstream. The 1960s and 1970s heralded a new culture of "free love” with millions of young people embracing the hippie ethos and preaching the power of love and the beauty of sex as a natural part of ordinary life. Hippies believed that sex was a natural biological phenomenon which should not be denied or repressed. Changes in attitudes reflected a perception that traditional views on sexuality were both hypocritical and chauvinistic. Sexual liberalization heralded a new ethos in; experimenting with open sex in and outside of marriage, contraception and the pill, public nudity, gay Liberation, liberalization of abortion, interracial marriage, a return to natural birth control and childbirth, women's rights and feminism. ^[5][6] The perception that all hippies were excessively promiscuous and the sexual revolutionary era was an uncontrolled orgy of group sex is a myth without basis. Many of the era’s countercultural people were celibate due to personal preferences. These choices had nothing to do with issues of morality, but were ones of personal deliberation due in part to spiritual conviction . The consideration that relationships and sex could become distractions upon the path of personal spiritual deliverance, ensured that many hippies refraned from all sexual activity. Celibate hippies were not critical of others who chose the paths of “free love” and “sexual liberalization”. In the late seventies and eighties new won sexual freedoms were exploited by big business looking to capitalise on a more open society, with the advent of public pornography and hardcore.

Counter forces such as Fraenkel (1992) say that the "sexual revolution", that the West supposedly experienced in the late 60s, is indeed a misconception and that sex is not actually enjoyed freely, it is just observed in all the fields of culture; that's a kind of taboo behavior technically called "repressive desublimation". In his writing Marcuse explores the concept that Establishment sanctioned forms of sensual release, what he calls "repressive desublimation", complete our enslavement on the instinctual level. In order to move from that to an actual sexual liberation, it is necessary a change in our mental structures and our moral inhibitions; instead the Judeo-Christian morals still basically hold, and the small social changes are exaggerated because they are seen in that light. Even most of the self-claimed atheists, have just secularized and internalized the same old morals.

While the extent to which the sexual revolution involved major changes in sexual behavior is debated, many observers suggest that the main change was not that people had more sex or different types of sex, it was simply that they talked about it more openly than previous generations had done - which in itself can be described as revolutionary by supportive historians.

Historian David Allyn argues it was a time of "coming-out": about premarital sex, masturbation, erotic fantasies, pornography use, and sexuality. Although this may be true, some historians have doubts on this due to the lack of contraceptives en masse before the common era. This would have made it extremely difficult to cover up pre-marital relations due to extremely high risk of pregnancy.

It is clear that sexual behavior did change radically for the vast majority of women, but only a generation after the "revolution" had begun. Women reaching sexual maturity after about 1984 have behaviors much more in common with the men of a generation earlier. Some had more partners (two to three times), starting at an earlier age (by three to five years), than women of the 1970s. Nevertheless this rather radical change in actual behavior is rarely reported on, being regarded as no longer newsworthy.

Most of you in America do not know any better
Not out of ignorance
But out of stupidity
*blank stare*

"We have come a long way baby"


Haven't we?

So let's get back to the more advanced living people
"The lifestyler's"

Many of you do not consider yourselves in a lifestyle
Yet most of you will agree that you have grown to have done your fair amount of "dirt" in your lives

From freakin
To sneakin
To creaping
To cheating
To speaking about thinking about something kinky

Yet, many of you who now call these lifestyles a part of your lives?
Are still playing the sex game
"It's not about the sex"
Sometimes it's just about the attention
Nobody wants to be lonely
So they claim that you can own thee
*snicker*
But show me where you are doing anything more respectable than I am?
*LQQKinG*
(take'n a nap until you absorb the first part)
*Yawn*

Ok, this is for the advanced sexual lifestyles people
The rest of you can go sit in the corner and study the first part
*smirk*

Ok
Now that we see how life has changed in the past few years
Sexually
A new reality

And here we are
Trying to be sexually evolved
And free to be grown ass adults
Enjoying all that life has in store for consenting adults
Of like minds
And a lust for a more responsible kinky life
SSC

So this is where we are in this subject
"Free love"
"The revolution was not only televised, it was pod cast!"

The sexual revolution can be seen as an outgrowth of a process in recent history, though its roots may be traced back as far as the Enlightenment (Marquis de Sade) and the Victorian era (A. C. Swinburne's scandalous Poems and Ballads of 1866).

It was a development in the modern world which saw the significant loss of power by the values of a morality rooted in the Christian tradition and the rise of permissive societies, of attitudes that were accepting of greater sexual freedom and experimentation that spread all over the world and were captured in the phrase free love.

Throughout the 1960s and 1970s Sweden was an international leader in what is now referred to as the "sexual revolution", with gender equality particularly promoted during this time..

Historians argue that the ongoing Sexual Revolution in the new century is continued liberalization after a conservative period that existed between the 1930s and 1950s. They note that the Cold War sparked a socially conformist identity which tended to be self-conscious of its appearance to the outside world. .

Within the United States, this conformity took on puritanical overtones which contradicted natural or even culturally-established human sexual behaviors. It was this period of Cold War puritanism, some say, which led to a cultural rebellion in the form of the "sexual revolution". Despite this, however, before the 1920s the Victorian era was much more conservative than even the 1930s and 1950s. Due to the invention of TV and the increasingly wide use of it in the 50s, by the 1960s a vast majority of Americans had television. This mass communication device, along with other media outlets such as radio and magazines, could broadcast information in a matter of seconds to millions of people, while only a few wealthy people would control what millions of people would watch.

Some have now theorized that perhaps that these media outlets helped spread new ideas among the masses.

A prime example of this occurred during the early 1960s when the Beatles (virtually unknown at the time) came to America and were introduced on the Ed Sullivan show. Once the show was over they were an instant hit.

Forty million Americans had watched it that night and thus morals in one perspective changed instantly; although obviously it would take longer for this to occur.

The mass media's broadcasting of new ideas to the population was radical, and during the late 1960s the counterculture was becoming well known on radio, newspapers, TV and other media outlets.

One suggested trigger for the modern revolution was the development of the birth control pill in 1960, which gave women access to easy and reliable contraception.



Another likely factor was vast improvements in obstetrics, which greatly reduced the number of women who die in childbirth and thus increases the life expectancy of women.

Other data suggest the "revolution" was more directly influenced by the financial independence gained by many women who entered the workforce during and after World War II, making the revolution more about individual equality rather than biological independence.

Many people, however, feel that one specific cause cannot be selected for this large phenomenon.
And the above is why so many of us are now struggling with the Old Guard while living in a new age

Many of you have grown to invest your lives in this lifestyle
Without the common respect for the act of sex

And sex in now the number one cause of infidelity in this country
And in these lifestyles

And many of you are not adult enough to admit it
That is not a threat
It's a human trait of this new age we live in right now
get over it
understand it
respect it

"We are not living your grandmothers life anymore"

The Industrial Revolution during the nineteenth century and the growth of science and technology, medicine and health care, resulted in better contraceptives being manufactured.

So for a while, getting a shot was all we needed

Advances in the manufacture and production of rubber made possible the design and production of condoms that could be used by hundreds of millions of men and women to prevent pregnancy at little cost. Advances in steel production and immunology made abortion readily available.

So for a while, it was the woman's choice to keep a unwanted child from a sexual encounter.

Advances in chemistry, pharmacology, and knowledge of biology, and human physiology and all sorts of new drugs led to the discovery and perfection of the first oral contraceptives also known as "The Pill".

So for a while, it was a woman's choice what she did with her body

New drugs like Viagra helped impotent men have an erection and increased the potency of others. Purchasing an aphrodisiac and various sex toys became "normal".

So for a while, it became ok to be over sexual active

Sado-masochism ("S&M") gained popularity, and "no-fault" unilateral divorce became legal and easier to obtain in many countries during the 1960s and 1970s.

So for a while, we became more kinky adults

All these developments took place alongside and combined with an increase in world literacy and decline in religious observances. Old values such as the biblical notion of "be fruitful and multiply" for example, were cast aside as people continued to feel alienated from the past and adopted the life-styles of modernizing westernized cultures.

So for a while, we became church freaks, jewish freaks, muslim freaks, and just plain ole freaky spiritual people.

A we lost sight of a old out dated culture

And failed to respect this new culture we live in today

The New World Order Of Sexuality of The Ages

E Pluribus Unum

From the many we became the one

American Freaks

So what is your excuse?

So why do many of us in these lifestyles suffer the same fate
As many people in the vanilla world?



"Maybe it is because we are NOT respecting the basic rules of relationships?"

There are rules we all try to tell the younger freaks they too need to respect
Even if we tell them to do as we say and not as we do
They do
just like you

So we owe it to not just ourselves or these lifestyles
But our next generations to get better in bed
And in our lives together

So what are the basic rules?

In the late 1940s and early 1950s, Alfred C. Kinsey published two surveys of modern sexual behavior. In 1948, Alfred C. Kinsey and his co-workers, responding to a request by female students at Indiana University for more information on human sexual behavior, published the book Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. They followed this five years later with Sexual Behavior in the Human Female. These books began a revolution in social awareness of, and public attention given to, human sexuality.

It is said that at the time, public morality severely restricted open discussion of sexuality as a human characteristic, and specific sexual practices, especially sexual behaviors that did not lead to procreation.

Kinsey's books contained studies about controversial topics such as the frequency of homosexuality, and the sexuality of minors ages two weeks to thirteen years. Scientists working for Kinsey reported data which led to the conclusion that we are capable of sexual stimulation from birth.

These books laid the groundwork for Masters and Johnson's life work. A study called Human Sexual Response in 1966 revealed the nature and scope of the sex practices of young Americans.

So it is not about who you have sex with
It is about how you respect who you have sex with

Many argue that the 1978 elections of Margaret Thatcher in United Kingdom and John Paul II in Vatican, events like the Disco Demolition Night in 1979, the election of US President Ronald Reagan in 1980 and the rise of televangelism marked the beginning of the end of the “liberal wave” that had gradually engulfed the Anglosphere, the Developed World and subsequently the Western World since the late 1950s.

And with the outbreak of the AIDS epidemy in early 1980s — culminating with the publicly-known death of Rock Hudson in 1985 — marked the return of conservative values into society and the juridical and political questioning of the achievements of Sexual Revolution (see Meese Commission and Bowers v. Hardwick).

This situation would prevail until the mid-to-late-1990s, when the discovery of more effective ways to control AIDS infections and cultural phenomena like internet pornography made the moral-cultural tide slowly turn again.
But many of you still consider AIDS more of a homosexual issue today still
And even the more sexually evolved lifestyle types see this in the same light
So that means that we have too many people who have no respect for sexuality as a whole still
Although more of you are educated?
You still do not know enough to respect what you are doing or not doing

yet
You want to respect monogamy?
You want to respect sexual monogamy?
You want to respect polyamory?

There was a few statements that I read in Teal's post
That I really felt needed to be read again
Maybe by more intelligent people than many who replied
*snicker*

" Sexual monogamy is not equal to relationship monogamy. "
" Faithfulness (or 'Monogamy') to a relationship (or marriage) does not have to equate to sexual faithfulness."
Made by Buck and Wife

And I have heard these words spoken by family members and friends that have been together forever

But these rules are deeper for many of us who claim involvement with many of these lifestyles
Because what we do is not all about sex
But too many of you have not mastered sex
So to submit and be Mastered by each other in these sexual lifestyles?
Can cause major issues and drama between each other
And the lifestyles in general

Because you are not following the rules

The worse abuse ever noted?
Is selfish abuse
The need to take more than you give
And not be concerned with the longterm effects

And yet you want monogamy?

For most of you it is too late
Because you are not virgins anymore

So you all are serial monogamous
respect that first

Too many of you suffer from selfish pride
To see how you fit in this post
And as adults
And that is a deadly sin
*wicked grin*




So what good are you to anyone if you do not follow the rules you claim you are about?

Maybe that is why so many people in these lifestyle are single?
Or have mates that are not in these lifestyles with you?
Not that they can not handle it
But because they can not handle you not feeling that they can handle it too?

And there is no such thing as being vanilla in these lifestyles
Once you have learned to respect your own sexuality?
Once you have found a lust for your own kink?
Once you have found a lifestyle that fits you?

You are no longer vanilla
Because vanilla is a flavor
Not a lifestyle
In a lifestyle?
You can be any flavor you want to be
SSC

But if you think that these lifestyles are about sex?
Then you are not ready to go further than just sex in your lifestyle

Until you learn the rules
And how to define who you are in reality

So you want monogamy?

What do you have to offer?
Sex?

What else you got?











respect